Stasia's Place Of Grace

Monday, November 04, 2002

 

Thankful For Communication

Remember when I said, yesterday, that I shouldn't get my nose out of joint when people "offend" me?

Well, today I thought that seeking open communication, and not playing games, was the best way to handle a bad situation. It turns out I was right, because one of the hurtful things from this weekend turns out to be just miscommunication!

A lot of assumptions were made by a lot of people, but when the truth came out, it turned out that everything was fine.

What has happened is that a party we were informed we were to be excluded from was not a real party, but a fake party intended to throw the recipient off the trail... and we are invited to the real party, as the recipient found out after becoming aware he'd hurt us by telling us we hadn't been invited!

Thank goodness for the recipient's urge to get to the root of things, and my urge not to get caught up in a misunderstanding... or things could really have gotten blown out of proportion! (Jeff was ready to show up uninvited, gift in hand! Thank goodness we didn't, as we'd have walked in on a bunch of poker-playing old folks instead of whom we thought we'd be meeting!!!)

Surprise parties are always a rather stupid idea, I think. They never seem to have the desired effect! Perhaps it is because people have more intuition than we generally give them credit for, and they always feel something is amiss.

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I am thankful I made the right choice, to practice good karma and communication instead of bad today. The phone call clearing this all up came no more than 15 minutes after my decision to try to open up the channels! It is amazing how, when we are on the right path, the Creator lets us know immediately!

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If you have a yarn shop that imports needles from other countries, and marks the US sizes on them, don't take their word for it!

I have been knitting some gorgeous sox on two circulars, both by Inox. The first needle is a US 1. The second needle is a European import, and was marked 2.5mm. The shop indicated it was a US 1. I now see, in the Woodland Woolworks Wool Rag, that the 2.5mm is a US 2. Dang! The instep of these socks is now going to be done on a larger needle. Maybe I will switch when I get to the ankle.

Well, at least I did the sole on the smaller needle, which will make it more durable! I'm thankful for that, but not for the poor communication by folks who ought to have known better.

(I thought it was strange, as other brands had the 2.5mm needles marked differently than these Inox ones. A different employee must have marked them. I should have listened to my intuition - again, I didn't give it enough credit! See why I usually shop online?)

On a good note, these sox are coming out GORGEOUSLY. They will be called my Cranberry Cable Sox; the pattern across the 32 stitch instep is a two-stitch rib, alternating with a two-stitch purl, and then a two-stitch baby cable that crosses every third round. So sweet - reminds me of the knee socks I wore as a little girl.

These will be my Thanksgiving Day sox! Perfect to wear for a dinner of turkey with cranberry sauce!

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My therapist has encouraged me to get out and communicate more with real, live people. The isolation that I experience due to my illness is not good for me emotionally and is really wearing me down.

To that end, I will be joining an FMS support group at the local hospital, as well as a book discussion group! In one week, I now need to read "Steppenwolf" by Herman Hesse, and "Snow In August" by Pete Hamill. I might not have a lot of time for blogging this week, so be patient with me, please!

I'm looking forward to trying to get out, trying to strike up friendships with new people, and trying to finish the books in time. I always loved English (it was one of my majors in college) and it is kind of fun to feel like I have "homework" again. Something to look forward to, anyway. Hopefully I'll be in good physical shape to attend the meetings. If I can't make it, at least I will have read a couple of good books which I might not otherwise have chosen. It is good to broaden my horizons beyond Jane Austen and E. M. Forster.

My therapist, a knitter, also encouraged me to try to drive the distance to the Greater Milwaukee Knitting Guild meetings again. It is quite a ways away... but perhaps the emotional and social "highs" would counteract any discomfort I would experience by pushing myself to attend.

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I hope that the channels of communication will open in your life, as they are opening in my own. Have a wonderful week!

I must run - BretT Favre is playing tonight! I hate football... but not as much as I used to! Kary is getting me addicted, and now that they put that yellow line on the screen, at least I can see what the players are supposed to be doing!

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